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Happy Thursday!
Marriage might just be the most half empty - half full arrangement we can ever experience in life. I have walked with couples through situations, like infidelity, that have nearly ended the relationship. I have also walked with couples that have experienced infidelity and to them it was no more than a speed bump.
I’ve seen relationships where finding out a credit card has been unknowingly opened and charged all the way up, pushed them to the brink of divorce. And…I’ve seen relationships where finding out a credit card has unknowingly been opened and charged all the way up is no more than, “I really wish you would’ve told me first”.
The point of today’s newsletter is 2-fold. First, the difference between a marital mountain and mole hill are a matter of perspective. Second, our mind set in Christ can change the perspective of our marriage.
Therefore, preparing your minds for action, and being sober-minded, set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ. 1 Peter 1:13
As a Christian life principle (that works in marriage too) is our ability to keep our hope “soberly” set on the grace of Christ more than the action of our spouse. In every marriage there are times when they get us deeply and we finish each other thoughts then there are times when we wonder if they even know our name. & that can be in the same 15 minutes 🤣So we find great strength when we prepare our minds to be set on Christ, the ground leveler that always gets us.
…Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father. Philippians 2:1-11
Philippians 2 is known as the “Great Humiliation”. For what we can find to complain or be frustrated about, imagine the humiliation of God becoming a man (which He did willingly 😇). Yet the model and mindset of Christ is one of a perspective of loving (us) from humility and not His own selfish ambition or conceit. Read the whole passage it will bless your life and marriage.
1 Corinthians 2:16 is a great one too, “…but we have the mind of Christ”. The point is that Christian Marriage, like all of our Christian life isn’t according to a text book or manual. Nor does it hinge on our perspective alone. Rather, Christ guides us in every moment of our lives. So when we think of and love our husband or wife in Christ we find strength to love stronger than whether we see half empty or half full.
That’s it! Take time this week to pray for a renewed perspective in Christ for your marriage. Lord, help me to see what you see and love like you love…
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