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Certainty in Uncertainty in Your Christian Marriage
The most important verse for facing pressure in a Christian Marriage
Edward Lee
November 14, 2024
Good Thursday Morning! Hey it’s not you, it’s me 😂. You didn't miss last week’s newsletter, it was me, I needed to take a step back, consider and pray about what’s important to Christian marriage and family - now - post election...
So today, I want to share the powerful truths of Genesis 2:24, to safe guard your marriage both now and forever. For years I’ve considered this the most significant verse in the Bible regarding marriage!
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24
Genesis 2:24 give us understanding that the strength of Christian marriage is the ability of a couple to “leave”.
Leave Father & Mother: After Adam was formed from the dust of the earth and Eve fashioned from Adam’s rib, God told these 2 people that didn’t have father and mother, to leave father and mother 🤔. The call to “leave father and mother” is a call to leave any and everything that hinders a couple’s relationship with God.
So let me ask, What in the scope of your marriage & family life has been or is pulling your marriage from God instead of toward Him? More than an answer for you to provide, it’s an answer to seek from the Lord.
Leave and Be Joined: …Years of marriage doesn’t equate being joined. Years ago I met a guy married 51 years and he sadly shared, they were the worst years of his life 🥲. To me, his reason for their years of misery came from a minor issue (to me). But the point is that neither he or his wife could let go or leave the grip of their broken expectations - for 51 years.
If we can’t let go of life’s pressures and uncertainties, whether from inside or outside of our marriage, we live with a level of friction that prevents us from being joined as husband and wife in God’s power - around issues and or in total.
Around 2006 when I became a Christian Marriage coach, the terms “grey divorce” or “silver splitters” were starting to become mainstream phrases. The economy was bad and under the pressure of financial uncertainty, couples over 50 years old were divorcing.
Why? Because, the poor economy caused couples that worked their entire adult lives then retired with expectations of what was next for them to go back to work, put off their travel the world plans, and/or move in with their kids 😓. Couples that were unprepared, unwilling or unable to leave or shift their expectations started splitting up.
That’s just 1 scenario, really, circumstances don’t matter. What matters is that under pressure and in uncertainty in marriage a couple either finds Christ’s strength to leave and therefore be joined or they find unbearable pressure...
In my own marriage, when pressure starts mounting this verse has taught me a question first personally and then of my marriage: What expectation or perspective hasn’t been left?
This becomes such a powerful understanding because from where you are to married 51 years (see above), a couple can’t be joined until they first leave - any and everything hindering their relationship with God.
Because! When asked about divorce in Matthew 19:5, Jesus quoted Genesis 2:24, reminding that a couple had to leave all that separated them and be joined. But as Jesus does, He took it to another, Christ centered level, by adding Matthew 19:6 👇🏽👇🏽👇🏽
So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no person is to separate.”
Which leads to a bold statement and a powerful understanding.
Wow! Christ’s point on marriage’s under pressure is: leave whatever separates, be joined and God will join husband and wife as a new family. Then, when God joins, they are no longer 1+1=2, but joined by God, they are 1 family. Therefore what God joins, no one is to separate. Which leads to a powerfully Christ centered statement: If You Leave, God Will Join You and IF He joins you, you can’t be separated!
In “whatever” brings pressure to your marriage - from finances, parenting, work stuff, whatever it may be - leave and be joined.
That’s it! Have a great week in the Lord. Check out elev8yourmarriage on IG throughout the week.
Edward